Studies have shown that when we spend time with positive,
supportive, and loving people, we will be happier, more content, and more likely
to live longer. Daniel Amen, M.D., who is a clinical neuroscientist, psychiatrist,
and brain imaging expert, writes, « When you spend time with negative or hostile
people, you tend to feel tense, anxious, upset, and sick, and you increase your
stress hormones. Increases in the stress hormone cortisol can disrupt neurons in
the hippocampus, one of the main memory centers in the brain. »
Check out who you spend time with. Do they support you
and give you positive messages? Do you feel encouraged by them or do they put you
down? Are your friends positive or negative?
Are they sarcastic? Many people think sarcasm is funny. It actually comes from a
Greek word meaning tearing flesh.
It’s important to take a good look at your friends and make
changes if you find they fit in the negative category.
In one detailed health study, 10,000 men were asked, « Does your wife show you her
love? » Ten years later, those who had answered yes showed fewer ulcers and less
chest pain and lived longer!
I deserve friends who lift my spirits, just
as I lift the spirits of my friends.