This is a great story (based in the tradition of desert spirituality) about Letting
One day John said to Jill, « We’ve never had an argument. Let’s have an argument
like other people have. »
Jill asked, « But how can we start an argument? »
John answered, « It’s very simple. I take a brick and say, ‘It’s mine,’ and then
you say, ‘No, it’s mine,’ and then we have an argument. »
So they sat down and John took a brick and said, « This brick is mine. »
Jill looked gently at him and said, « Well, if it’s yours, take it. »
And so, they could not have an argument.
As long as we keep bricks in our hands and speak about mine and thine, our little
power games gradually will escalate into big power games and our big power games
will lead to hatred, violence and war. When we look at life from below, our fears
and insecurities lead us to grab bricks wherever we can.
But when we dare to let go of our bricks, empty our hands, and raise them up to
the One who is our true refuge and our true stronghold, our poverty opens us to
receive power from above, power that heals, power that will be a true blessing for
ourselves and for our world.
–Henri J. M. Nouwen