We are injured and hurt emotionally, not so much by other
people or what they say and don’t say, but by our own attitude and our own response.
When someone hurts or upsets us, it’s a natural reaction to want to hurt back, lash
out, or punish the other person. This, of course, results in more upset and pain.
When we hold on to these angry or hurt feelings, it takes much more of an effort
not to respond and, if necessary, to walk away.
When we can create some space between our offender and
ourselves, we can see how our upset comes from our own reaction to what has been
said. Once we see this, we can realize that we have the ability to change how we
react and thus change how we feel. What powerful knowledge this is, to know that
we are in charge of our own feelings. We can respond with anger or we can choose
not to respond at
all. We can let go, knowing that what was said was just words, and not necessarily
Today I am practicing breathing in peace and breathing
out peace before I respond to anyone.